I’ve yet to be on a campus where most women weren’t worrying about some aspect of combining marriage, children, and a career. I’ve yet to find one where many men were worrying about the same thing.
I experience this phenomenon regularly with my friends.
It’s sad that whenever I have a discussion with female friends about our future and what we’re going to do with our lives, I hear them building their lives around marriage and having children and cutting studies short so that they can have time to manage it all. And they turn their noses up at the idea of going all the way with academia or not getting married at all. “How can such things make a person happy?” they ask. I counter in my head with, how can monotony, stress and lack of freedom make a person happy? Yes academia and research can be stressful but at least when your marriage inevitably becomes boring, your children have started hating you and your husband has about ten things on his priority list above you, you can still say that, I have accomplished this, I discovered this, I have made a difference in the world that has changed so many lives. Even when your family no longer appreciates you, you will have so many other people who appreciate the difference that you made in their lives.